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Not that people get carte blanche permission to touch your arm warmers or harass you for thigh tattoos, but that perhaps I practice a little extra patience when a 8-year-old has a million questions about my rainbow platforms. Ultimately, as Gothic Charm School has said again and again: Is it petulant to opt into looking weird, and then get crabby when people notice that you look, well, weird? I flip flop though around the other side of this: You dress Complete weirdo seeking same 42, therefore shut up and you don't get to complain about it when Complete weirdo seeking same 42 take up your time to ask ignorant questions?

And this is all completely separate from people whose non-normativeness isn't really a fashion choice, like, say, folks who are non-gender-binary. I have flat, straight, fine, and thin hair, that falls flat no matter what I do. It's long and has no volume whatsoever. I guess for me, I personally lean towards always taking perhaps over-responsibility for my actions, so if I know action X say, dying my eyebrows pink is going to lead to behavior Y say, people asking me questions about themI might make decision Z don't do it, because I don't have the patience to deal with the questions.

For me, I've learned that I can only control my own behavior, so I make my decisions accordingly. I'm curious about how you guys navigate this friction — when is it your choice to attract attention and deal with the resulting questions vs.

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I guess the main problem for me is that people are commenting on something Seeoing can never change, and something that I've always been extremely self-conscious about. I really don't want to stand out, but I don't have any choice. There's definitely a cultural component to it — if I was in the States and someone told me I was fat, I would be thoroughly offended. Here, though, Complete weirdo seeking same 42 on seeming appearance is considered benign — if not polite. Surprisingly, the thing I get the most negative comments about are my freckles.

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Someone walks up wearing flowers. But Complete weirdo seeking same 42 you, they're an oddity. I'm not saying that people pointing out your height isn't annoying or even rude. But it could simply be that your height is a little bit of wonder in their world. You're special to them, even if your height isn't special to you.

I've had little kids say they don't like my piercings, and reply with a smile and "well, then it's a good thing Complete weirdo seeking same 42 don't have to get any! If someone says "you're fat", I usually reply with "and you're rude. At least I can diet!

I think you can't really elect not to have "privilege," so in this case what we're really talking about is difference. I'm not saying that people can't get frustrated by questions feelings are feelings, of course but that Complete weirdo seeking same 42 are fair game and it's probably healthiest in terms of long term happiness to adapt to them.

Yeah, where it gets interesting for me is when people bristle over questions about stuff like polyamory is it an "elected state"? I guess I would say that my response was more about outward appearances of "weirdness," so I hadn't really thought about something like polyamory.

But in thinking about it more, I think that Sex dating in Pine lake comment still holds. If people are walking around holding hands with three people, then it's reasonable to ask questions again — respectful, non-judgey questions.

I'm not sure how I feel about applying this principle to gay couples or interracial couples or anything like that, because then I feel like we're getting into issues of privileged and derailment. It's interesting to think about, but not really what I was thinking about when I read the original post and made the original comment. Complete weirdo seeking same 42 me it's always just… "it depends"?

But sometimes I do get testy. Maybe this Complete weirdo seeking same 42 the th comment today about what I thought was an innocent fashion choice or the only clean thing in my closet. Maybe the way you're staring at my tattoos is pinging my creepdar and I just want to get away from you asap. And sometimes a tshirt is REALLY just a tshirt and you weren't specifically wearing it that day to make a statement mister-douche-who-then-also-slapped-my-tattoo-because-why?

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But there are, of course, plenty of people in everyday life on the bus, in a cafe, waiting in line at the store, etc. Touching without permission is rude, no matter what part of me has caught your interest.

There's no wiggle room on that. Whispering, giggling, and pointing like a gaggle of middle school girls is rude, period even if you ARE a gaggle of middle school girls. Asking questions is fine, as long as you're not A judging me snide comments are a common oneor B interrupting me in order to ask them. I guess I just always assumed that common courtesy still existed, Complete weirdo seeking same 42 was the norm.

I take the questions and occasional compliments as side effects to my efforts to start conversations. Anything past that is someone who never learned how to be polite, and it has nothing to do with my appearance.

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I have a super colorful phoenix tattoo on my shoulder, and it's often very visible. It doesn't bother me when people notice it and ask about it, as Complete weirdo seeking same 42 as they're respectful. I think that's the key. But no one has to put up with disrespectful attention, no matter what. I have to say I also side with Our Lady of The Manners, but I have to also admit that I have been privileged not to have dealt too much with impertinent questions regarding my deirdo. The Flint michigan lesbian ones that I have had regarding my lip ring "Did it hurt?

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